How It Slips Away
You give up a little something each time.
At first, it doesn’t feel like much.
Then it becomes habit.
And when the ache finally comes…
your first instinct is to run back.
Back to how it felt before you gave it all up.
But that’s the trap.
That’s the stuckness.
The striving.
Chasing something that has nothing to do
with the pieces of you you’ve already abandoned.
Hoping it’ll make sense again.
It never does.
I Was The Missing Man
I thought I had everyone fooled.
I looked the part. I played the role.
Even my wife thought work was what fulfilled me.
The night I found out I’d beaten cancer…
she told me she was living her dream life,
and I was the only thing missing from it.
That’s how good I was at lying.
To her.
To everyone.
Mostly to myself.
And that’s the cost.
You don’t lose everything at once.
You bleed it out a lie at a time.
Can You Admit This to Yourself?
You hide things from yourself.
Sit with that.
If you can’t even agree with it, this work isn’t for you.
Because the moment you see what you’ve been hiding from yourself…
everything else starts to make sense.
And here’s the brutal part...
It’s worse than the little lies.
Worse than what you tell others.
You’ve learned how to bury truth from yourself.
That’s the real cost.
And no one else can dig it up for you.
Not your coach.
Not your boss.
Not another “next level.”
You already know the question you won’t ask.
The one that feels like a secret even from you.
You’re Still Here.
That Means Something.
This is all of it.
The Truth is here.
The outcome isn’t a secret.
It’s being in right relation with yourself. The true one.
And letting that be the foundation.
You’ve read this far for a reason.
Now it’s about which step you’ll take first.
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If you think this is about me…
You don’t really need me to convince you.
You don’t even need to convince yourself.
The truth is simple.
The cost of avoiding it is always higher than the cost of facing it.
So the real question is...
How many more solutions will you chase just to avoid the truth?
When you’re ready to stop running, it’s all here waiting.
I’ve built the life I wanted with my wife and kids. We travel together. We live life together. Every day feels like the life I once thought I had to wait for. I still work, harder than ever, but it fills me instead of draining me.
I’ve got the resume. I did the proving. I know what it costs to get there.
A dead spot in a relationship with my oldest daughter.
Years of my wife waiting for me to finally show up in our life.
All the parts of me I told to shut up and disappear so I could keep carrying the load.
And the one thing I learned, the only thing I have to offer at this point, is that everything changes when you stop running from discomfort.
Sit in it.
Look around.
See what else is there because its not alone.
That’s the path. That’s all of it.
